As the dark nights set in, the leaves are pretty much all fallen and the heating is firmly on, things can be difficult. These signs that signify the passing of time are emotional when someone you care about is ill, especially if you know they are not going to recover. The seasons changing can leave you wondering whether this may be the last time they see autumn turn to winter. It might increase your worries about whether they will see another spring, or summer.
The seasons changing and the calendar pages make it hard not to reflect on the passage of time and the changes that this brings. As much as we may like to, it’s impossible to stop time continuing and to freeze the moment when things are okay. But this doesn’t have to be a cause of pain. 2020 has been such a strange year and a lot of the normal things we may keep track of that signify the passing of time have gone by with a whisper, not a bang.
We haven’t celebrated birthdays or anniversaries. We haven’t held weddings, parties, or celebrations. For many, this year has passed through quietly and we will have little to look back on to remember it other than as the year we all stayed inside. This isn’t the case when someone you love has been diagnoses with cancer. It’s been a year of worry and pain. Of fearing the future and the world around us. Maybe you are able to be glad that 2020 is ending and can leave it behind. But maybe 2021 holds just as much fear and unknown.
The year will end, and soon after, Winter will give way to Spring. We know that not everyone who saw in 2020 with us will be here to welcome 2021. This year, grief has been more apparent than ever before in most of our lifetimes. Loss is everywhere and most people are scared, or at least looking forward with trepidation, but maybe that is a reason to try and find something in every day to enjoy. It doesn’t have to be something significant, just a cup of tea together in bed in the morning, laying on the sofa to watch a film, or just a smile or nod hello as you cross paths with a stranger on the street. T
here are still good things, and we may be scared, we may in fact be absolutely terrified of what the future holds, but for now, we are here and we are trying our bests to get through. We at Ray of Light hope to be just that for you, when the long, dark nights drag on we are a reminder that there will be sunny days again, and that you are not alone.
“Today is World Cancer Research Day! Research is essential in developing new treatments for different types of cancer and keeping our loved ones going. Today we celebrate the scientists, trial participants and everyone else that goes into creating new cancer treatments!
We have started a new, private, Facebook group which is for anyone affected by cancer.
We know first hand how hard daily life can sometimes be, this is a safe place to share triumphs, struggles or simply to vent. Both emotional and social support can make a big difference and also gives you the opportunity to connect with people in similar situations.
This is a closed group where you can share in a safe and completely confidential space.
Would you like to help us unlock free money? We are very excited to share our new online donation page with you! This means it is now really easy for anyone to support us wherever they are. We are looking to get our Walking Group off the ground and we also have the opportunity for the first donations we raise online to be doubled! So if you would like to support us then now is the perfect time to do so. For example £2 will become £4 (or £4.50 with gift aid). We would be so grateful for any support you can give even sharing this message. For more information or to donate, all you need to do is follow this link: localgiving.org/rayoflightwales
We would like to announce that we are relocating. As of Thursday 1st August 2019 our groups will be held at Maggie’s Cardiff, located next to Velindre Cancer Centre. To have the opportunity to meet others in similar situations really can make a difference, please come along and join us for a cuppa and cake in a friendly and supportive environment.
Our Support Group for carers, friends and family members held from 5 pm to 6:45 pm with arts & crafts. (Decoupage this month) Our Singing Group Ray of Light Warblers held from 5.30 pm to 6:45pm (open to all, no singing ability required)