As the dark nights set in, the leaves are pretty much all fallen and the heating is firmly on, things can be difficult. These signs that signify the passing of time are emotional when someone you care about is ill, especially if you know they are not going to recover. The seasons changing can leave you wondering whether this may be the last time they see autumn turn to winter. It might increase your worries about whether they will see another spring, or summer. The seasons changing and the calendar pages make it hard not to reflect on the passage of time and the changes that this brings. As much as we may like to, it’s impossible to stop time continuing and to freeze the moment when things are okay. But this doesn’t have to be a cause of pain. 2020 has been such a strange year and a lot of the normal things we may keep track of that signify the passing of time have gone by with a whisper, not a bang. We haven’t celebrated birthdays or anniversaries. We haven’t held weddings, parties, or celebrations. For many, this year has passed through quietly and we will have little to look back on to remember it other than as the year we all stayed inside. This isn’t the case when someone you love has been diagnoses with cancer. It’s been a year of worry and pain. Of fearing the future and the world around us. Maybe you are able to be glad that 2020 is ending and can leave it behind. But maybe 2021 holds just as much fear and unknown.
The year will end, and soon after, Winter will give way to Spring. We know that not everyone who saw in 2020 with us will be here to welcome 2021. This year, grief has been more apparent than ever before in most of our lifetimes. Loss is everywhere and most people are scared, or at least looking forward with trepidation, but maybe that is a reason to try and find something in every day to enjoy. It doesn’t have to be something significant, just a cup of tea together in bed in the morning, laying on the sofa to watch a film, or just a smile or nod hello as you cross paths with a stranger on the street. There are still good things, and we may be scared, we may in fact be absolutely terrified of what the future holds, but for now, we are here and we are trying our bests to get through. We at Ray of Light hope to be just that for you, when the long, dark nights drag on we are a reminder that there will be sunny days again, and that you are not alone.